A growing number of people today are beginning to live their lives from a place of love. Not doing what they don’t like but doing what they do in fact like.

It seems simple but most people live their lives doing what they think they have to do out of fear. Fear that they won’t have enough money, fear that they will be fat, fear that they won’t be loved, fear motivates them.

Your primary motivation is important because it dictates your state of being, your overall energy that you put into something. First of all when you do something out of fear it’s just not going to produce the same results as if you did it out of love, the fear based action simply won’t be that good, this should be obvious why.

Secondly when you are making your decisions from fear you are bound not to feel that good because you are afraid, it doesn’t feel good to be afraid this creates stress in the mind and body and leads to degeneration and unhappiness.

Thirdly, and most important, decisions made from fear hold you back from your true purpose on this earth. Your true purpose are decisions made from love and ultimately help the betterment of all of mankind. True abundance and happiness comes to us when we start to make our decisions from a place of love.

When you do what you do not because you are scared of what might happen if you don’t but because you are overjoyed with the idea of actually doing it then you are living a life of joy. You will be happy, abundant and the whole world will benefit.

So right now tap into your volition in this moment, are you acting out of fear or are you acting out of love?

Fear ultimately brings death. Love ultimately brings life.

Death doesn’t have to be unhappy though, one can transcend fear and love and reach a plane of non-duality where everything just is, perfect as it is, and there is no consequence of the primary emotion on the happiness of the being. This is peace. Fear doesn’t have to cause stress. This is mastery of the mind. From this state actions simply arise.

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Most of us go about our days in a haze of half choice, not really choosing in the deepest sense of word. We are to locked in by our rules, rules we have inherited from teachers, governments and mostly rules we have told our self about who we are.

Most of us have pretty defined days where we wake up around the same time, do pretty much the same thing for work come home and do pretty same night time things and finally go to sleep. Finally sleep, yes sleep, that is where the soul can be free of the choice-less monotony of everyday life and do some real choosing. There is a difference between living a life where the only choices you make each day is weather to eat a Cesar salad or a veggie salad, or weather to watch channel 11 or channel 7 on TV tonight. This isn’t choice this is sleep walking.

We can live our lives in full choice and our souls can sing in choice all day if we allow ourselves to relax into it.

Relax into what? Relax into the knowingness that everything is OK, that you don’t need to be doing anything, you don’t need to have anything, and that there are no ultimate restrictions placed on you. The only restrictions placed on you are the ones that you put there yourself.

For some people, myself included, this sounds a bit hard to do; completely let go and relax… What about my bills, my food, my agreements, my, my, my you name it. I think that’s why its good to start integrating more choice in your life slowly. You might want to try experimenting with this for about a half hour a day, or maybe more.

Begin to allow yourself to just be, to start to float in real choice. Allow yourself to be your deepest choice for a bit each day. And see how things start to change in your life, see what happens to all those things that keep you from really letting go into full choice all the time. Just try it out, and see how it works.

Real choice. Its a beautiful thing. Dwell in it. Become it. Watch Truth.

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Yet we can live a far happier, peaceful, and fulfilling existence free of our never ending thoughts, our neurosis. For it is our never ending thoughts which are the root cause of the vast majority of our suffering.

To try and escape the mind by using the mind is impossible. We must change the ways we understand and relate to the world. One that deemphasizes words and emphasizes presentness.

When we begin to relate to the world through presence instead of through words we begin to transcend the mind, and we begin to experience a peace, a happiness, that is truly untouchable.

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Yet a lot of people have a problem with this statement. In this article I want to persuade you that feeling good is actually the most important thing you can do in your life, by debunking some common reasons why most people say you shouldn’t feel good, including exercise and necessary evil type arguments, and I give some reasons people be stuck in the belief that you have to go through some sort of bad feelings in order to get what you want like school and social pressure. At the end of this post I explain some ways you can start feeling good now.

Feeling good is the most important thing that you can do. Why? Because when you feel good you start to attract other feeling good things to you. If you are not feeling good with what you are doing, then you are going to attract to you more of those things that don’t feel good to do. Like attracts like.

But some people might say “But I have to do this thing I don’t like to do right now, so that I can pay my rent.” Or other similar things. And if you say it is so, then it is so for you. You create your reality, over and over again we create our reality each day with each choice. This type of thinking that you need to do something you don’t like in order to achieve your goals, or to survive even, is pretty common in our culture, a lot of people subscribe to this belief, and therefor its hard to go against.

When we look around and see that most people are doing what they don’t like to get to some level of survival, we automatically think that this is the way it simply is. This type of thinking is systematic and has its roots in the education system most people go through. Most kids don’t want to go to school, but are told that they have to and that they are given this false hope that by doing something they don’t like (like homework) they will get something good out of it.

Well let me tell you something Nothing good has ever come from doing something you don’t like. Nothing.

What about exercise? Some people might argue that exercise is just something that you have to bear through in order to get what you want. To this there are a couple responses; first, ask most people who have some sort of exercise routine, they like to exercise it feels good to them. Secondly, if you don’t feel good while exercising you probably are not going to reach your goals, whatever they are. Sure it might hurt a little, it might sting a little, it might push you a little when you are exercising and these actions might not feel “good” in the body at the time, but in a lot of ways it does actually feel good to exercise. It might not feel “good” in the normal way we think of feeling good, as in some blissful relaxed equilibrium of the body, but it does feel good mentally, emotionally and in other ways, and it sure feels good after, really good.

The most successful people don’t subscribe to the belief that you have to do something you don’t like in order to do what you do like. In fact the most successful people and tell everyone (again and again) that to be successful you have to do what you do like, you have to do what feels good. The most important thing to achieving your goals is feeling good. The hard truth is that you are not going to do anything worthwhile if you are not enjoying what you are doing. I know this might be hard to accept now, especially if you have some job that you spend most of your time doing something you don’t want to do, but its true, you know its true.

So then, we must make it our top priority to do what makes us feel good. It must be our number one top priority.

But someone might argue that that sounds pretty hedonistic, maybe even animalistic. If we all just went around doing what made us feel good we would be like animals, just fucking all day, or just doing drugs all the time. Well first, what is wrong with fucking all day? And secondly doing drugs doesn’t actually feel good in the long term. The argument against doing what feels good, because if you did you would just do drugs all day, is really the same type of argument as the exercise argument except the other side. Yes doing drugs might feel good in the moment, but it doesn’t feel good in the long term, not at all. Exercise might not feel good in the short term, but it does feel good in the long term. The high from drugs don’t last long, then you need more, and more. Even given the best circumstances, lets say you are rich and can afford all the drugs you want, eventually your body will begin to shutdown, our bodies just can’t handle large amounts of drugs for long amounts of time. We can’t stay permanently high with the use of drugs. We always have to come down, always. So a lot of drug users are unhappy because they have to keep getting high in order to feel good, yet most of the time they are not high, so most of the time they don’t feel good. A drug users life is not a happy life, a drug user doesn’t feel good most of the time. Don’t take my word for it, look at one of them for yourself.

So the key is to do what makes us feel good for extended periods. The most important thing is that we feel good, all of the time.

OK, some people might be convinced that feeling good is the most important thing yet what does this mean practically? How does this affect my life, and how can I feel good most of the time?

Practical Ways to Start Feeling Good

Start slow and start with awareness. Just being aware of those things that make you feel good is a great first step. Also being aware of those things that you do that make you feel bad is a good first step too. Be aware of your feelings, what makes you feel good, what makes you feel bad. You don’t even have to change anything just notice them, write them down. This is the most important thing you can do to start feeling good; be aware of your feelings. The next step is natural, when you are aware of those things that make you feel good do more of them when you are aware of those things that you make you feel bad do less of them. To have the best chances for success the slower the better, but also know that the key to change is perseverance.

Slow steady change is the key to success.

So go forth and start to become aware of your feelings, and after awhile start to do more of those things that make you feel good and less of those things that make you feel bad. You are destined to win.

In love, -Wayne

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A lot of ‘self help’ books and articles feed on this idea that happiness is something that can be found outside of oneself. To me these articles are built on the presumption that if you only had something else you didn’t already have now then yes you would be happy, so let me teach you how to get it…

There is nothing wrong with getting or achieving things, but we must be clear on the reason why we are doing what we are doing in order not to be disappointed when we are done.

I have started to understand the quest of happiness like the quest for balance. Everything in this universe is in a constant state of balance, the planets in their orbit are balanced by the sun, the waves by the moon, and our bodies are constantly searching for their homeostasis.

So might argue that we are happy when we are in a constant state of homeostasis, but I don’t think this is true. While it might feel good to have all our needs met, there is still something that spurs us to action, after a time just having all our needs met becomes boring. No matter what, we all have desires that spur us to action, no matter how “good” we have it we will always want more.

We will always want more. If this is true then it would seem like happiness is doomed to momentary relief while most of our life is unsatisfactory.

It seems like we can’t espace an unsatisfactory life because no matter what we achieve and no matter where we go we will still just want more. This reminds me of the first nobel truth in Buddhism: Life is dukkha. Dukkha is a pali term that is usually translated as suffering, but this translation really misses the point. The better translation for Dukkha is unsatisfactory. So the first nobel truth becomes: life is inherently unsatisfactory.

And it is, normally. Life can be this constant chase for happiness that never actually leaves us happy. More time is spent chasing happiness and fighting for happiness than is spent in actual happiness, we are constantly searching for more.

I think its human nature to always want more; which is to say its human nature to have needs and desires. Any attempt to subjugate our desires just leads to more unconsciousness and suffering.

So then what do we do? Can we ever be happy? No, I don’t think we can be happy in the way most people think of happiness.

The true happiness we are all searching for isn’t that transitory happiness that we get every once and awhile when we achieve something. True happiness isn’t dependent on anything. Thats the joy. Thats the bliss of being.

True happiness is already. True happiness is now, its not dependent on anything. Its the underlying fabric of this moment. Beyond thoughts, feelings, beyond it all, at the base, at the core of experience lies true happiness. Its a wonderful place to dwell in, our true state.

True happiness never leaves us, even when we are struggling, even when we are hurt, even we are momentarily superficially happy, true happiness underlies all experience in this moment.

So when we begin to realize true happiness we start to see that while our actions are usually motivated out of a desire for superficial happiness we become OK with that. In fact we just start to become OK with life. We know that we desire, and we are OK with that. The key isn’t on what desires we have, or how quickly we manifest our desires, or our emotions or our thoughts or anything like that. All that becomes like the sound of children playing outside. True happiness is found and effortlessly sustained in this moment, without needing to do anything, it is.

When we are truly happy we know why we are doing what we are doing. We are not deluded as much anymore. Our life is intrinsically happy no matter what happens, we are happy, even if we don’t have the emotion of happiness, we are happy.

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The awareness that I talk about is what you experience your emotions in, what you experience your thoughts in, and what you experience all your experience in, it is beingness itself.

To remember that behind all of the things that we define ourself as, that we think “make us up.” Behind all of the things that we experience and label as ME, like thoughts of being someone specific, or even emotions of happiness or sadness, BEHIND and THROUGHOUT all of these things rests a fundamental awareness that is ever present. To remember this, to remember that there is actually an awareness that holds our thoughts, feelings, and everything that we experience, is when a deep understanding and truth is revealed, this can not be described easily, or completely, it is best if it is experienced.

Its funny to ask someone to experience this state, because that seems to imply that they are not already experiencing it now, yet they are.

When the activity of our mind, or the feelings of our body, or our sense perceptions start to become identified as who you are, a duality is created, with duality happiness and suffering result.

The beautiful, amazing, awe inspiring thing about reality is that for duality to exist, it must exist in pure singularity, and in pure singularity there is such a deep awe inspiring joy and peace I cry in gratitude in realization that it is the most fundamental.

If this is all to abstract let me explain through analogy: Think of our thoughts, our emotions, our sense perceptions as the crayons in a coloring box, for us to begin to draw with the colors we must have a blank peace of paper. As we color on the paper it is as if we are experiencing life, we are having this emotion, or that thought, or these sense perceptions. As life goes by and our colors have filled up the whole paper we begin to forget what even makes all this coloring possible in the first place, it is the paper underneath. Underneath the colors there is a paper that holds all that is completely open and always present no matter what colors are there. This paper is like our awareness, our true beingeness, in which everything that we experience happens in through, and around.

To connect with our deep sense of awareness brings joy. It brings us so much peace and joy because it is whole, it is complete. It is fulfilling. It is what we most deeply want and strive for. It is fulfilling beyond words. It feels like home… You know how sometimes when you have been gone awhile and you get back home you feel this warm fuzzy feeling, you feel safe, connected, back again, its kinda like that, only more profoundly life altering.

Whats so amazing is that this state is always with us, we don’t even have to go looking for it. Its always with us. Our deepest home is ever present, behind all our experiences, to remember the paper under the colors, and to experience this deep awareness under it all, we are happy. We are home.

Enjoy.

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At first this thought might sound a bit strange. Most people are constantly tricking themselves out of happiness now, they are constantly telling themselves that they will be happy when you get your new car, or your new house, or your new computer, or even when you reach a certain wait, or have a depth of knowledge or anything. Basically most people are telling themselves that they can’t be happy now, they can only be happy in the future when some goal reached or physical object attained.

Most people predicate goal achievement with happiness, and therefor give up their ability to be happy now.

Happiness is our natural state. The present moment requires nothing of us, we are complete, always. It is our constant turning away from the present moment, which creates our unhappiness.

By constantly telling yourself that you can’t be happy until some future event you are engraining the pattern of unfulilment into yourself. This is very easy to do because we live in a society where most everyone is unfulfilled most of the time.

We are all so unfufilled most of the time because we have strong habits of constantly telling ourself that we can’t be happy, that we can’t be fulfilled, until some event in the future.

The problem with this thinking is that once this future event comes, it doesn’t last! It doesn’t last because we have created such a strong habit of being unfufilled, of looking to the future for happiness. So the moment that we get what thought would make us happy is the moment that we start looking for something else in the future to make us happy again.

Our habit of looking to the future for happiness is really incedious, it is hard to notice because it is so prevelent, yet at the same time this habit, this nerosis, creates the most suffering for people on this planet.

Inherently somewhere deep within us though, we know, that we can be happy, right now in this moment. No matter what I have, or where I am, or what is going on with me I can be happy right now. This resonates with people deeply, and this is probably why so many get rich quick, or instant health and instant etc products are on the market today, and why they sell very very well. Because when we hear that we can instantly be rich, or free of disease, or free of hunger, something rings true for us, it feels good to believe that.

It feels good to believe that because its true! It is true! YOU CAN BE HAPPY RIGHT NOW. In fact it can be far more instant than any get rich quick product. All it takes is the conscious awareness of your actions and thoughts.

Realize that everytime you tell yourself that you are going to be happy sometime in the future you are doing yourself a huge injustice by strengthening the belief that your happiness is dependent on something outside of yourself.

Your happiness is not dependent on anything outside of yourself. Your happiness can only exist now in this present moment! In fact everything can only, and does only, exist in this present moment.

So the key is to start being happy now. Start to look for things that you can be happy about in your life RIGHT NOW, at this very moment what are you happy about? Focus on that and continue to focus on that, constantly focus on what you are happy about now. Constantly continue to keep your awareness on this present moment and what you are happy about RIGHT NOW.

When you start to think that something or someone or some event is going to make you happy in the future, forget, and return to this moment, and what makes you happy right now.

QUESTIONS:

Some people might ask me, “What about goals, and agendas, and things like that? Are you saying that I should not set goals for myself?”

No. I am not saying never set a goal and never think about the future. I am saying don’t believe that anything you ever achieve in the future will ever make you happy, because it won’t. The only thing that can you bring you lasting happiness is a strong steady focus on the present moment and all that you are happy for right now. Happiness starts now, happiness starts in the only place anything can start, and that is now. To predicate your happiness on any future event is bound to make you unhappy, by doing this you are essentially telling yourself that you can not be happy now, you are denying yourself your true nature for something that does not exist yet.

“But what will motivate me to act? If I am always finding happiness in the present moment, or if I stop thinking that the future will bring me happiness, what will motivate me?”

Motivation is a beautiful thing. Motivation is creation. When we as a society stop motivating ourself with external objects we will start to tap into the prime motivation, our TRUE motivation. Our true motivation is usually characterized as “your bliss” or in the saying “follow your heart”. This is your true motivation, it is a guidance from within. True motivation is inspired action, it arises from a place beyond that of seeking material reward. True motivation simply arises. When one follows ones true motivation it is not because one feels motivated from any material reward, but because one feels and knows that it is the best thing for him to do. His heart mind and soul align for him to complete his true motivation.

As long as we are living we are creating, as long as we are living we will have motivation to do something. We can never not do anything, when we are happy in the present moment, we will be following our true motivation, not out of fear, not out of expectation for some reward, but because it is what feels right to do.

The key to doing what you are truly motivated to do, is to first stop doing those things that you are not truly motivated to do. The key to doing what you love is to stop doing what you don’t love. Start focusing on your current happiness, on those things that make you happy now.

More will be written on motivation in the future. But remember, when you start thinking that anything will bring you happiness in the future, it won’t. Remember that to be happy, you must start being happy now, build within yourself your own happiness now.

Much love, -Wayne

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