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Redefining Making It.

Wayne — Mon, 24 May 2010 03:00:01 +0000

I just watched a fascinating youtube video about the relationship between work performance and monetary reward. Basically the video shows (with some very entertaining images) how increased monetary reward does NOT actually generate better performance from people in their jobs. Money doesn’t actually motivate us at all to create better things. The video goes on to explain that if we want to motivate others to create amazing things money is doesn’t help motivate. What does help motivate others is basically helping help themselves to gain a sense of meaning in their work. Meaning.

Shortly after watching the above video I watched this video by Gary V. on the shopify blog in which he said something that really struck me: “I made it…” And in the context of the interview, that means that he has made a lot of money now and is financially set, it probably also means that he is also fairly famous (heck I have read his book).

Now, take a look at that video by Gary V again. Do you really feel like he has made it? Even given his celebrity status and his million dollar business, do you really feel like he has made it? No, and neither do I. Why is this? This is the question that really struck me when I watched his interview, I didn’t really feel like he had made it at all when he said “I made it.” But at the same time I knew that in one sense of the term he had actually made it, he was famous and rich, but in another sense of the term, in a deeper, more accurate sense of the term I don’t feel like he has made it at all.

To me when I think of what it would feel like to “make it” I feel peace, I feel happiness, I feel creative, I feel inspired, and most importantly, I feel a sense of meaning in my life.

Giving and helping others feels great and gives meaning to our lives! It feels great to genuinely help and give, this is why the open source movement is so big (which is touched on in that first video).

So when I hear someone say they have made it, I don’t really care how much money or fame they have, because as we all know those things can’t make you feel everything that what we think with being on top creates, like happiness and peace. In other words gaining riches and gaining fame do not really mean that you have actually achieved the real objective of “making it.”

To “make it” means that you are happy, that you are at peace in your life, and more than anything you feel like your life is meaningful and that you are making a positive contribution to the world.

We really need to change the notion that making it means making a lot of money and becoming famous. Sure you might become rich and famous when you start to emit peace and happiness and meaning from every pore of your body, but Fame and fortune can not make you happy, peaceful or give meaning to your life.

Lets now define “making it” as when you have more peace, meaning, and happiness in your life, not when you have more money, fame, and things in your life.

So when someone says that they have made it, I wonder yea, have you really?

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No Need For Stress

Wayne — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 01:19:42 +0000

Stress seems to be caused by worrying about things that already happened or things that haven’t happened yet. Here are some great tricks to stay present and reduce your stress.

If you are stressed out about the past realize you did all you could do at the time, what is, is. Give as much weight to “What if’s” as you would a bed time story, because that’s all they are. What happened is what happened, leave it there.

If you are stressed about the future realize that it will happen when it happens there is nothing you can do about it now. When it happens it will happen, but now you are here, now.

Relax. Breathe. Take a moment and be in this present moment. You did your best, you will do your best, always. Relax in that. Treat yourself well.

How to be stress and pain free

Spiral2al.com – Spiritual Digg

Wayne — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:33:55 +0000

I stumbled upon this website today: http://www.spiri2al.com/ – Sharing Spiritual Knowledge. Its like Digg for “Spirutal” posts. Good idea. I’ll be visiting. Related Posts 4 Amazing Spiritual Teachers on YouTube

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Finding Your Passion

Wayne — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 17:32:03 +0000

Zen Habits has a great post on finding your passion.

Here is the quick breakdown:

1. What are you good at? 2. What excites you? 3. What do you read about? 4. What have you secretly dreamed of? 5. Learn, ask, take notes. 6. Experiment, try. 7. Narrow things down. 8. Banish your fears. 9. Find the time. 10. How to make a living doing it.

Read the post here: http://zenhabits.net/2009/11/the-short-but-powerful-guide-to-finding-your-passion/

We are human BEings not human DOings

Wayne — Wed, 17 Dec 2008 08:34:24 +0000

Excerpt from an email I worte tonight:

…there is more to this world than these material things, there is more to life than a “job,” you know? This culture we live in seems to put a lot of emphasis on what we -do- and not how we -are- how we -be-. We are more than what we do, what we do doesn’t define us, we are, we ARE human BEings, not human DOings. We are, we BE, and thats it, from that state of being comes what we do. We are not what we do, we are sooo much more. You know? And thats life… It always works out, life is whatever we want it to be, we can be upset about whatever we want to be upset about, we can be happy about whatever we want to be happy about, its all up to us to define our reality how we want it. And -that- is life, its up to us, how we define our reality is up to us, we don’t have to buy into any old belief systems if we don’t want to. Its up to us. Our life experience gives us our contrast to create the reality we want in the future. Its rather beautiful, this life we live. So lets live it to the max, think about the most amazing, beautiful, outrageous experience you want to be, then go, and BE that, why not? The world, the universe is truly in our hands, its our playground, and there is noting to be scared of, ever. We are eternal, one, being, constantly being, anew. So, yea, life is fun. Lets live it to the max. Your love, is my love.

Being doesn’t require definition. Just be. From that doing will happen. Notice your own Beingness first, notice others beingness first, doingness is secondary, and doesn’t really matter, really. From being all radiates out. Why not go to source first? Go to the root to understand.

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Links: Million Dollar Blog and SBaGen

Wayne — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 22:48:05 +0000

Long story short Anthony W. has put my blog on his little pixle home page here. And Jim Peters put healingbeats.com on the front page of his SBaGen website, which are all great link builders.