New Paradigm Personal Development

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The key to life is being yourself. So much of our days are spent trying to be what others say we should be. So much of our days are spent trying to follow frameworks or guidelines of what others tell us to do and believe.

Yet the key to success is actually in NOT doing what others have told us what to do. The key to success is in doing what you know is best to do for yourself. The key to success is following your own guidance. The key to success is in listening to your heart and following it. The key to success is in truly being yourself.

Others are constantly trying to tell you what how to do things. But the key to remember is that they don’t know what is best for you. They don’t know your specific unique situation, at best they can give you broad general strokes from experiences of their own lives.

There is no guru outside of yourself. This is the one point that I would like to come away with in this article. There is no guru outside of yourself. The best teacher is yourself.

We are constantly being told that the answer lies outside of ourselves. We are constantly giving our power away to doctors or teachers or anyone as if they could really truly help us. And I’m sure that they can in some points, when our heart guides to the advice of others it is good to take it, but we must remember the advice of others is only as good as it sounds true in your heart.

You are your own guru. You have all the answers within yourself. This is the truth. I’m not saying that you don’t need anything outside of yourself, as long as you are living you will be taking in information from outside of yourself. What I am asking you to do is look inside to your own innate beauty and abundance of knowledge.

Honestly who best to know what you need than yourself? Who best to know your answers than you? Honestly if you really thought about it, I bet that you could answers 99% of the questions you have yourself if you just allowed yourself the time for them to come to you.

So if you really want to do something focus on doing it as you would do it. Think about what you want to accomplish and then just go about it, don’t worry about how others say to accomplish it, just go about it, go for it, just GO FOR IT.

In fact from my experience I think there is a direct correlation between those who follow their heart/instinct/gut/etc and success. In fact I’m just going to go ahead and say it; there is a direct correlation between those who follow their heart and success.

There is. The more real you are, the more attractive you are, the more everything you are. Realness is what creates success. In fact I don’t know anyone who has any real success who didn’t get there by not being real to themselves.

So if the key to life is being yourself, being real to yourself, then how do we do it? How do we throw away all our preconditioning and become in alignment with our true nature?

Well let me tell you… NOT. Let me not tell you that. You know why? Because that would be just us falling into the same old routine again, of me (or it could be anyone) telling you what to do.

All you have to do is ask yourself the question that makes the most sense to you. Maybe it sounds like; what do I do more of to be in alignment with my truth, or maybe it sounds something like; how can I be more real with myself? Or maybe it sounds something like, how can I begin to understand what is really true for myself?

The key here is to listen to yourself. The key is to always listen to yourself. Become aware of your own inner nature, and follow your own framework, this will give you the best results in the end.

Enjoy.

They joy of giving.

It really feels good to give. It really does, for some reason our society has really hidden the fact, the absolute fact, that the more you give the more you get. Our society doesn’t really value generosity, our society quietly pushes values of greed.

Everything begits more of itself. So greed begits more greed. For a second now lets think about what greed is, and what it feels like.

Greed feels very contracting to me. There is a fear based element to greed for sure, fear that you must contract in order to save, this feeling of greed doesn’t feel very good at all, its a scary place, not pleasant at all.

Now lets feel into generosity. True generosity feels good, it feels abundant and expanding. It feels like there is plenty and that I can easily give, there is so much to go around It feels good to be giving. To be giving there is no trace of fear. I am giving and it feels good, I have nothing to worry about.

The feeling of generosity feels amazing. I love the way that generosity feels, (true generosity that is). Greed feels bad. Really it is that simple, take the time to feel it out yourself, greed doesn’t feel good and generosity does feel good.

Not only does generosity feel good but by practicing generosity you receive so much. When you give more and more flows to you, because that is the energy of generosity, flow and abundance. But when you take and are in the energy vibration of greed, more and more of that flows to you, contraction and lack.

So if you want a lot of abundance in your life be generous, and equally as true, if you want a lot of lack in your life be greedy.

But like I said earlier, its not that easy to be generous in a society that teaches you from a little age that to get what you want you must take.

It is actually a very short sighted way to see reality. You might actually get what you want through greed, but you won’t actually get what you want in the long term. You might physically get what you want in that moment, but by taking without giving, you create the energy vibration around you of taking, the vibration of lack. Other than not feeling good at all, being greedy doesn’t actually give you want you are really after, which is abundance which is things flowing to you without much effort, and being in a place where there there is no lack.

You can’t live in a place of abundance while still living in a place of lack. Greed necessitates lack, there is no greed without the feeling that there is not enough, that there must be withholding. Giving necessitates abundance, there is no giving without the feeling that there is enough.

So if you really want to create abundance around you, give. Give and don’t give because you are feeling lack and feel like you must give to create abundance in your life, that is just greed masquerading as generosity, but even so it is a good place to start .

Be generous give and you will surly get, give without feelings of want in return, and watch your life fill with abundance. As that is truly the energy state you want to create around you, one of abundance, one in which you can give and not worry, one in which giving is second nature, this is the only way abundance was ever created and is the only way abundance will ever be created, through giving.

So when that urge to be greedy comes up, remember generosity serves you so much more than greed. Honor your urge to hold, bring awareness to your fears and just remember that you don’t have to be afraid, you are creating the energy vibration of abundance through your generosity, and you can’t help but attract more, much more, abundance into your life.

Are you doing what you love? Do you feel so motivated that you can’t wait to get up in the morning and get to it?

Or do you feel bored and uninspired?

When we are uninspired we begin to unconsciously let others tell us what to do. We start to create by default, or we create based on what other people tell us to create.

If you don’t have a clear idea what it is you want then it can only be a short time until someone else starts to tell you what you should want and what you should do. Usually this comes in the form of advertisements via the media, and sometimes it comes from friends or family who while meaning well, are just filling your head with their own desires, not yours.

Without clear goals you can’t blame anyone else but yourself for leading an uninspired life.

Get clear on what you want! Think about this, on an average day how much time do you spend doing what you have decided to based on your goals verses on much time you spend doing something out of boredom, a feeling of fear based on what others tell you you must do?

Working for others we forget what really inspires us. Our lack of clarity manifests itself when we start to create based on the clarity of others, we create what others want us to create because we are not clear enough on what we want to create ourselves.

We must be absolutely clear what our goals are if we are to lead an inspired life.

We have to really work on that which we want and that which we want only.

We have to give our goals 100% of our focus and continually say NO to the desires of others, this is the only way that we can begin to lead an inspired life, one in which we are absolutely loving and deeply inspired each and every moment to live in! A life in which every moment is sacred and fulfilled. Your life inspired is SO much better than your life uninspired.

Basically it all comes down to this. Are you going to get clear on what inspires you? Or are you just going to do what others tell you you should be inspired to do?

Are you going to lead an inspired life in which you are loving each and every moment, or are you going to lead a life in which you work for others feeling uninspired, stressed, and bored?

So get clear on what inspires you. Get clear on what it is that you truly want to be doing with your time. And just start doing it. Start slow if you must, but you MUST start NOW.

-Wayne

The key to your happiness can not be found in the future. The future does not exist. There is nothing out there, out side of this moment, that can bring you happiness. Nothing.

At first this thought might sound a bit strange. Most people are constantly tricking themselves out of happiness now, they are constantly telling themselves that they will be happy when you get your new car, or your new house, or your new computer, or even when you reach a certain wait, or have a depth of knowledge or anything. Basically most people are telling themselves that they can’t be happy now, they can only be happy in the future when some goal reached or physical object attained.

Most people predicate goal achievement with happiness, and therefor give up their ability to be happy now.

Happiness is our natural state. The present moment requires nothing of us, we are complete, always. It is our constant turning away from the present moment, which creates our unhappiness.

By constantly telling yourself that you can’t be happy until some future event you are engraining the pattern of unfulilment into yourself. This is very easy to do because we live in a society where most everyone is unfulfilled most of the time.

We are all so unfufilled most of the time because we have strong habits of constantly telling ourself that we can’t be happy, that we can’t be fulfilled, until some event in the future.

The problem with this thinking is that once this future event comes, it doesn’t last! It doesn’t last because we have created such a strong habit of being unfufilled, of looking to the future for happiness. So the moment that we get what thought would make us happy is the moment that we start looking for something else in the future to make us happy again.

Our habit of looking to the future for happiness is really incedious, it is hard to notice because it is so prevelent, yet at the same time this habit, this nerosis, creates the most suffering for people on this planet.

Inherently somewhere deep within us though, we know, that we can be happy, right now in this moment. No matter what I have, or where I am, or what is going on with me I can be happy right now. This resonates with people deeply, and this is probably why so many get rich quick, or instant health and instant etc products are on the market today, and why they sell very very well. Because when we hear that we can instantly be rich, or free of disease, or free of hunger, something rings true for us, it feels good to believe that.

It feels good to believe that because its true! It is true! YOU CAN BE HAPPY RIGHT NOW. In fact it can be far more instant than any get rich quick product. All it takes is the conscious awareness of your actions and thoughts.

Realize that everytime you tell yourself that you are going to be happy sometime in the future you are doing yourself a huge injustice by strengthening the belief that your happiness is dependent on something outside of yourself.

Your happiness is not dependent on anything outside of yourself. Your happiness can only exist now in this present moment! In fact everything can only, and does only, exist in this present moment.

So the key is to start being happy now. Start to look for things that you can be happy about in your life RIGHT NOW, at this very moment what are you happy about? Focus on that and continue to focus on that, constantly focus on what you are happy about now. Constantly continue to keep your awareness on this present moment and what you are happy about RIGHT NOW.

When you start to think that something or someone or some event is going to make you happy in the future, forget, and return to this moment, and what makes you happy right now.

QUESTIONS:

Some people might ask me, “What about goals, and agendas, and things like that? Are you saying that I should not set goals for myself?”

No. I am not saying never set a goal and never think about the future. I am saying don’t believe that anything you ever achieve in the future will ever make you happy, because it won’t. The only thing that can you bring you lasting happiness is a strong steady focus on the present moment and all that you are happy for right now. Happiness starts now, happiness starts in the only place anything can start, and that is now. To predicate your happiness on any future event is bound to make you unhappy, by doing this you are essentially telling yourself that you can not be happy now, you are denying yourself your true nature for something that does not exist yet.

“But what will motivate me to act? If I am always finding happiness in the present moment, or if I stop thinking that the future will bring me happiness, what will motivate me?”

Motivation is a beautiful thing. Motivation is creation. When we as a society stop motivating ourself with external objects we will start to tap into the prime motivation, our TRUE motivation. Our true motivation is usually characterized as “your bliss” or in the saying “follow your heart”. This is your true motivation, it is a guidance from within. True motivation is inspired action, it arises from a place beyond that of seeking material reward. True motivation simply arises. When one follows ones true motivation it is not because one feels motivated from any material reward, but because one feels and knows that it is the best thing for him to do. His heart mind and soul align for him to complete his true motivation.

As long as we are living we are creating, as long as we are living we will have motivation to do something. We can never not do anything, when we are happy in the present moment, we will be following our true motivation, not out of fear, not out of expectation for some reward, but because it is what feels right to do.

The key to doing what you are truly motivated to do, is to first stop doing those things that you are not truly motivated to do. The key to doing what you love is to stop doing what you don’t love. Start focusing on your current happiness, on those things that make you happy now.

More will be written on motivation in the future. But remember, when you start thinking that anything will bring you happiness in the future, it won’t. Remember that to be happy, you must start being happy now, build within yourself your own happiness now.

Much love, -Wayne

I often think, what is the best use of my time here on this planet. What can I contribute that will bring the most happiness to my life and the life of others?

I have come to realize that what really helps people the most is not by changing what I do, but how I do it.

What really matters is the energy behind a gift, as we all know it really is the thought that matters. The energy behind your work, your gift to the world, has a ripple effect to all who come in contact with it. If you have a good feeling while you are doing what you are doing other people who come into contact will also feel this later.

Your attitude is apparent in all the small things, what we call dotting the I’s and crossing the T’s. This is really what matters. When you do something with a feeling of happiness everything about what you are doing takes on a good feel to it.

Your attitude really is the most important thing in your life.

When you do things out of ease, a feeling of ease emanates from what you have done, for the benefit of all.

So if you want to start helping others and yourself just start where you are. Start where you are with what you are doing now, you don’t have to change what you do, that naturally changes anyway, just start changing how you do it.

How you do what you do is far more important than what you do. The attitude you have while you do something is your energy state when you are doing what you are doing, and this is what leaves a lasting mark on your work. This energy leaves a lasting mark in the small little things that change while you are working from a state of peace or happiness or bliss than in an opposite state. When you are happy you are probably going to cross more T’s and dot more I’s, everything you do is going to have that feeling that you went the extra mile for it, and others will feel it.

By enjoying yourself and what you do, others will enjoy your fruits also.

So when you are thinking about what the best thing that you can do for someone or for others, simply just start doing what you are already doing but change the way you are doing it. Learn to enjoy those things that you are already doing and watch your world change for the better.

The next step of course is learning how to enjoy what you are already doing. I’ll talk about that in my next post. Until then, enjoy your day and whatever you are doing.

-W

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I just read an email on effective vs ineffective gratitude, and it really resonated with me.

Basically ineffective gratitude is gratitude for external things that can, and often do, change.

Ineffective gratitude may be things like:

• My job
• My relationships
• My health
• My house
• My finances

These things all change, and what makes them “ineffective” is that when you are grateful for them you can’t help but come from a place of lack. When you are grateful for these transient things you can help but tell the universe that you are not grateful when you don’t have those things.

If you want to take your gratitude practice to the next level and really start experiencing some amazing shifts in your life, then start being grateful for those things that are not transient, start being grateful for those things that are more permanent.

Some examples of effective gratitude include:

• The miracle of life
• The earth
• The universe
• The sun
• Consciousness
• All that is

Gratitude for these everlasting things is like a  leap in perception. When you start becoming grateful for all that is you start to become gratitude itself, you embody gratitude because it cannot leave you. You effectively have the mindset of gratitude all the time.

Notice how ineffective gratitude centers around things that are yours while effective gratitude centers around things that are you and also so much more than you. Ineffective gratitude is much more like a transient feeling or emotion, it will come and go and there is nothing wrong with that. But effective gratitude is like a mindset, it stays with you for much longer it becomes who you are.

When we have a mindset for gratitude our whole reality starts to change around us, we find ourselves much more at peace with the world, much more happy no matter what happens to us. With a mindset of gratitude we start to become happy all the time we can’t really help it, what we are grateful for can’t be taken away from us, its everlasting, and so is our happiness.

Maybe you find everlasting happiness in everlasting gratitude.

-W

I have been reading the Ringing Ceders series of books and have found them most life changing. One aspect of the books that I keep coming back to again and again is how spiritually un-evolved our global culture is. She makes constant indirect references to our destructive, inefficient, primitive society, and she makes a lot of sense.

Anastasia makes such a strong argument against what she calls our “technocratic” world that its hard not to feel a sense of disgust for the current state of world civilization, and it is this feeling of disgust that I would like to talk about now.

I do not tolerate the saying “ignorance is bliss,” a life of ignorance is a life unexamined, and the unexamined life is not worth living! So if we are to examine our life and our current situation, and by necessity the current world situation, we are bound to feel a sense of disgust, especially after reading books like the Anastasia which explain other more joyful ways of living. So then what is one to do now?

What we do now is what we will always do first to achieve change, be grateful. The key to change is gratitude for what is now, already. If we don’t find ways to feel grateful for what we already have then we will just continue the disgust, disgust of what is disgusting only begets more disgust. But gratitude for disgust begins to beget something more more beautiful than what one is grateful for. Gratitude is truly the most amazing tool we have at our disposal it literally has the power to turn poison into medicine.

And what is gratitude? Gratitude is thankfully loving what is.

Gratitude works to get you to where you want to go by grounding you down in the present moment. To get to any point you need to know two things; where you are now and where you are going. Gratitude makes you aware of where you are now and it helps you develop the positive feelings needed to get where you want to go. Because you can’t get to where you are going on an empty tank, you need feelings of positivity to bring more positivity into your life.

So if we are to live this life we are bound to want something better, and to get something better we must first be grateful for what we have. Gratitude sets our current point and give us positive emotions that fuel our forward progress.

So don’t be distressed if you find yourself living in such a “technocratic” world. Realize that if you really, really, want to change it, you must change your feelings towards it, and it will change. Love it. Accept. And watch your world change.

Blessings to all.

Last night I was talking about my nearsightedness with a fellow myopic friend and I realized that my eyesight, “bad” as it might be, has really been a blessing to my life. Just because I can’t read a street sign from a distance doesn’t mean that I don’t know to turn there, I know because my intuition tells me its the correct street, or just because I can’t see what the map says at a distance doesn’t mean I can’t tell you what it says because my memory reminds me. I attribute my eyesight my very strong intuition, its like a muscle that I constantly work out because of my eyesight, as such its incredibly clear, I really appreciate my eyesight just as it is.

Have you ever thought why is it “bad” or “wrong” to not be able to see so far? Yes, if you are a truck driver, or a pilot, or something like this you probably need to be able to see things far away well. Is believing that if we don’t have “perfect” eyesight an empowering belief? Doesn’t it sound better to believe that our eyesight, whatever it is like now, is a gift, something in which we can learn from in our own unique way?

After talking with some people about this many have shared with me their stories of how having less than “perfect” eyesight has helped them develop skills and abilities they probably wouldn’t have if they had “better” eyesight. Us with less than clear vision have been given a gift to see things differently than what is considered the “right way” to see (and this segment of the population is nearly half in industrialized nations).

I think its time (it has been for me at least) to look at what my eyesight is really trying to teach me, what it is trying to show me. As I already explained my my eyesight has helped me get in touch with my psychic abilities in such a way probably not possible otherwise. Maybe its time that more people start to become aware of their abilities.

We have to be careful at what we define as “the way it should be.” I feel like 20/20 eyesight is really taken to be “the way it should be” but why? What lessons and crucial learning are we missing out on by just putting on a pair of glasses? What is our body really trying to show us?

I believe that the key to having perfect eyesight is opening up to the idea that your eyesight is fine just the way it is, it doesn’t need to be “fixed.” The perfect eyesight is the eyesight you have right now. If though at some point you desire to have a more clear vision of objects far or close away the universe will start to put certain events, people, books in your path, you just have to ask.

And yes, I do whole heatedly believe that you can go from a blurry vision to an excellent vision without surgery or glasses, I personally know people who increased their vision clarity and am also in the process of learning (google “bates method” for more info).

In our age we want the quick fix to “problems.” But what we really need now is to realize that these “problems” are actually gifts. Instead of putting on glasses or taking a pill or getting surgery we have the magnificent amazing opportunity to look deeply into ourselves and gain precious insight into our mind and body. There is nothing that needs to be fixed in your body, mind, or soul just areas in which to investigate and explore. To believe that something is even wrong in the first place we have to compare ourselves, as if others knew what was best for us.

We get pressured into believing that everyone should see the same distance, that everyone should have the same in their eyesight. We are pressured into believing that if we can’t see as far as our friend there is something wrong, so not wanting to be the one what has something wrong we look for the quick fix, glasses usually in the case of eyesight. But the body is persistent it will keep reminding you of this area of your life to investigate, but sadly people think “oh, my eyesight is getting worse, I better get some stronger glasses” and they keep getting stronger and stronger glasses, but really the body is just trying to show you something. Any “problem” your body might have is really just your bodies way of saying “hey this something that if you really looked into you could probably learn a lot from.” You could probably really make your life much much better if you would just look, look, its right there its so clear, its literarily everywhere you look.

So treat your eyesight however it is as a gift, treat your whole body and whatever it is showing you right now as a magnificent gift, a gift that is constantly talking to you, gently nudging you to greater awareness and new profound joy and happiness.

Blessings.

Its time that we started asking the questions that really mattered most. Its that time of year to reflect on our lives and really look deeply to see if our actions, words, and most importantly thoughts are getting is what we want.

I remember a definition I once heard for describing insanity; “Someone who does the same thing over and over again and expects different results each time.” Funny if you take that definition to be true then it would seem like a lot of people out in the world are insane.

Most people know what they want, its not really hard to come up with a couple things you would like. Everyone has desires, its what makes us human, honor and celebrate your desires, but for gosh sake take a look at your life now. Are you getting what you want? Are you achieving your goals? Are you living your dreams, and if not why not? What do you have to do different to start living your dreams, now?

Remember to look deeply at your desires at your dreams and goals. What do you really want, really? On the surface it might be something material like a new car but what is a new car without somewhere to go or people to see? And whats somewhere to go but a beautiful feeling, whats a new car without that the feeling you get by getting in the first time, without the feeling it would be like its not worth it, in fact you could probably say we aren’t really buying a new car after all, we are buying the feeling of whats its like to have a new car.

Behind all our materialistic desires there is an emotion, a feeling, that we desire, this is really the true desire. We desire the feeling, the feeling of driving a new car, the feeling we get when others see our new car the  experience of driving it. And all of these feelings have one deeper feeling they want to evoke more of, happiness.  We most deeply desire happiness, it is at the root of all desire. All our desires are rooted in the desire for happiness even the “bad” desires that are born out of fear are just a roundabout way of wanting a life of happiness.

So I ask you to take a look at your life, and ask yourself “Am I leading a happy life?” And if you aren’t what can you do, right now, or at the very least for gods sake, what can I do today to make my life more happy? What things can you change, because you must change something to live a more happy life. You must do something different to become more fulfilled and happy in your life.

And I ask you to really examine your material desires, to really contemplate on their value. Will your materialist desires really -really- -truly- bring happiness to your life? Of course when you fulfill a materialist desire it will bring some level of happiness to your life (as all of us who receive gifts for christmas know) but take a second or two to think how long that happiness will last. How much last happiness you will really gain from your material possessions?

This is why I am such a big proponent of personal development. In personal development you learn to make yourself more happy from the inside out. The beauty about self work is that it increases your ability to be happy more of the time without needing anything outside yourself. Unlike material goods that slowly loose their ability to make you happy (and often cause you just as much sadness as happiness) when you make a lasting change to yourself its rather permanent. When you work on yourself you begin to increase your overall level of happiness and your ability to be happy has increased no matter what the situation.

As we have heard a hundred times by now “money doesn’t buy happiness” and this has even been  affirmed many times in many scientific journals. The last one I read pointed out that people tend to have a base level of happiness that they more or less hover around, even if amazing things happen to them. For example when people win the lottery for a period of time their level of happiness goes up, but it eventually goes right back where it was before they won the lottery, the same thing tends to happen to people who are in major accidents and loose the ability to walk or something similar, for a time they are much less happy than they were, then they eventually go back to the level of happiness they were at before the accident.

So if you really think about it the best thing you could ever do for yourself the best new years present ever is the gift of true happiness the gift of yourself to yourself. Learn to become more happy inside without the need of anything external, take a clear close look at your life and start doing those things that really do make you happy and enjoy. Learn to become more sensitive and aware of yourself and your internal nature. The best gift you could ever receive is the gift that you can only receive from yourself.

I continue to write in this blog in order to inspire others to examine their lives and take action in doing those things that will have a real meaningful impact for themselves. I write to inspire personal growth. May we all grow together and live a happy and inspired 2010!

Blessings.

Pick up most marketing books today and they are still teaching fear based tactics. The idea still widely practiced is that a  successful marketer will make the consumer believe that he needs the product, that his or her life would not be complete without the product, this tactic plays off of peoples fear and insecurities. Fear based marketing increase peoples insecurities and fear by tricking them into believing that they are not enough, that they should look outside of themselves for the answer. If you buy something with the false belief that it will somehow make you more whole or complete you are bound to be disappointed because there is nothing outside of yourself that can give you yourself, that can show you your own unique magnificent brilliance but you!

Marketers are trying to trick you into believing you aren’t enough; you need this or that. You need this consultancy, or that seminar, or this knowledge, or this workshop. It has been engrained in us at an early age to believe the we are not enough to distrust our feelings and ignore our passions.

Marketing must move to a more uplifting and ultimately more sustaining model, on that embraces facts and positive messages. A positive based marketing approach doesn’t try and trick the consumer into believing that if he doesn’t buy this product his life will be worse off or how I absolutely need this product in order to be happy or whole. A positive based marketing approach actually cares about the consumer and wants the best for them if or if not they buy the product. Positive based marketing informs the the consumer in very clear ways what he will get, nothing more. Positive based marketing goes out and finds the tribe of people who are interested in what is being offered, or builds the community, contributes to the community and naturally engages those who are interested in buying the product.

Now that business is moving online we don’t have to blindly place billboards up or TV commercials not knowing who might watch, marketing finally can go to where the people are that actually care.

By continuing fear based marketing the marketer and the consumer fuel and sustain within themselves the false belief that we are inherently not enough, that we must look outside of ourself for our salvation, that there is some sort of lack and that we must fill it, this is false! We are enough, our salvation is inside and inherent, we lack nothing.

The truth of the matter is that there is no lack, we live in an infinitely abundant universe! You are whole as you are right now. You need not go anywhere, invest in anything, or do anything to become whole to become who you are, because you already are you who you are. At the same time enjoy your life, buy tickets around the world and things you want its fun, but realize that these things can’t make you happy, these things can fill your life with meaning. You are the meaning of your life. You are amazing, you are enough!